Why do some of us achieve our goals while many others want the same outcome but do nothing about it? If you knew how to achieve all of your goals, how would your life change for the better?
Today and for a short period of time you can download Employment Kings Goal Setting technique which will share with you the techniques to achieve any of your goals – Career, Life, Business, Relationships and anything you really want to achieve.
Download the goal setting techniques, achieve your goals and let me know your success by e-mailing info@employmentking.co.ukor by adding your own blog comment
If you enjoyed reading this article you will also enjoy reading
The secret to successful life coaching is the questions you ask as a life coach or are asked by your coach, to help you coach yourself we have written 101 coaching questions.
When reading each question, take the time to wait for your unconscious mind to answer the questions, giving you the answers you need. To really move forward with your life download a FREE extract from Employment King’s online coaching course(limited time only)
Opening the Session
What has changed since deciding to make the decision to change your life, career, future, health, relationships?
What has been your biggest achievement since we last met?
What has gone really well for you for this week?
How have you progressed – what did you do differently?
What is great about your life this week?
How have you grown this week?
What did you accomplish this week?
What happen last week for you to want to make a change this week?
Who else will benefit from what you have learnt and how you have changed?
How many positive states have you been in this week?
What motivated you to complete last week’s actions and tasks?
Goal Setting
What do you want to achieve in your life?
By what date do you want to achieve your goals?
What is important to you right now?
What dreams and fantasies do you have?
What would you like to achieve from today’s session?
What needs to happen for you to have the best possible session today?
If anything was possible what would you want?
Describe you at your best or you on your best day.
What do you want to happen today, next week, next month and next year?
What are you key goals – what outcomes will they bring?
How long have you been thinking about this goal or change?
You too can use a life coach to achieve your goals
Building on Success
What is working well right now, what keeps you motivated?
What can you do more of that will help you move forward?
Where are you when you are acting at your best?
What do you say to yourself when you are feeling successful?
How can you ensure next week is as successful as this week or even more so?
If you are aware of the problem, do you know the solution?
How would you like it to be known?
What’s in the way of your success?
What’s stopping you moving forward, how can you overcome this?
Have you ever experienced something like this before?
What does success mean to you?
Are you focused on your goal a 100%?
How will you know when you have reached your goal?
Is your goal designed to gain pleasure or to avoid pain?
Is your goal giving you energy or draining your energy?
What will really make the biggest difference in your life?
Options
What would work best for you?
What options do you have for moving forward?
What else could you do?
If anything was possible what would be your ideal course of action?
Will this choice move you forward or keep you stuck in a rut?
How have you handled this situation successfully in the past?
Who do you know who has been in a similar situation, what would they do?
If you were advising a friend or family member with the same goal/barrier what would you suggest?
If you did know what to do what would the answer be?
Who else is affected by you, your barriers and your goals?
What does your intuition tell you about this?
Have you solved problems like this before? What did you do?
What is really important to you? Make a list
What item on your lift has the most importance?
What rules do you have for yourself, which are getting in the way?
If you changed your belief about this, what would be possible?
Is this a decision or a dream?
Taking the Next Step
If you did know the answer what would it be?
What question should I be asking you?
On a scale of 1 -10 what progress have you made so far in achieving your goal?
On a scale of 1 – 10 how motivated are you to carrying out this action to achieve your goal?
What can you do to move one more number up the scale?
What number on the scale do you want to be at?
How will you know when you have reached this number?
How can you learn from this problem so it never happens again?
Jumping Barriers
What are you not facing up to?
What are you pretending not to know?
If you did know the answer what would it be?
What is the real issue?
What would people you know be saying to you right now?
What is really important to you?
What’s the worst that can happen, and can you handle that?
What’s stopping you from taking action? – What can you do to overcome this?
Have you set goals before – at what part in the process did you give up? What will you do different this time?
Who wouldn’t like it if you succeeded?
How can you solve this problem so it never comes back?
If you weren’t so scared, what would you do differently?
Which step could you take that would make the biggest difference, right now?
Motivation
How do you know when you’re really motivated?
What is really important to you right now?
What would you like people to say about you?
When things were going well for you what was happening?
When did you last feel energize-what was happening, where were you, who were you with?
Which of your core values does this goal meet?
What do you believe about yourself? What new belief would most help you?
What will you have to give up in order to make room for your new goals?
How would your life be transformed if you changed this right now?
If you don’t change this, what will it cost you in the long run?
What will you add to your plan to achieve your new goals?
Are your personal standards high enough to reach your goals?
What did you learn in the process?
How will achieving your goal benefit you and other people?
First, what is success to you? Success comes in many different forms for many different people, for some success is owning your own business, becoming a millionaire or getting married – what does success mean to you?
Write down your answer ________________________ and then ask “why does X represent success?” as an example why will becoming a millionaire make me successful? People want money, cars, houses etc because it will make them happy – so I would ask, is being successful being HAPPY?
I would agree having money, owning a business or having 12 cars all have their perks but possessing objects does not guarantee happiness. The good news is that happiness is a STATE and as an NLP Life CoachI can teach you how to access your positive emotions whenever you require.
How much would you pay to live one more day?
Imagine you got ill, and the doctors after several examinations agree that you only have 12 months to live. While sat in the waiting room an eccentric billionaire who overheard your bad news felt sorry for you and offers to give you one million pound to spend enjoying yourself for your last 12 months on this earth.
What would you do with one million pound before you died?
What if you lived in a magical world and you could give back the million pounds and live 1 extra day – would you? One million pound for an extra 24hrs alive?
How about if you could live an extra week? Would that be worth one million pound? How about a month or a year?
What length of life would be needed before you would give up your one million pound? _____________ Why this amount of time?
We all value different things differently, for one person living an extra day is more important then anything else as life is precious. For some having a million pound and all the holidays, new clothes and material gifts that come with having lots of money is more important then an extra day or even a week alive, as some people prefer to have a shorter life with no money worries over a longer life with little money.
Why did you choose the money on the extra days? Because the thought of this life would make you happier then the other option. Once you know what you value and what will make you happy, you can go out and get it, the secret to living life is to do what makes you happy and I would add you first need to understand what will make you happy.
If you want to find and understand what makes you happy, look out for the forth coming Online Coaching Course.
If you have already brought the Online Coaching Course, you will receive the next set of exercise including your first audio session within 24 hours.
The Online Coaching Course is going to give you the tools to change your life, to set yourself and achieve new goals, to feel the way you want to feel and to live your life to the full. Over the next 12 Weeks, you will learn a wide range of coaching and NLP techniques to empower yourself to make a real change with your life.
First Download Below – How to Make Better Decisions
How Can The Online Coaching Course HELP you?
Make Better Decisions
Learn Self Motivation
Start to Feel Better about Your Life
Overcome Procrastination
Achieve Your Goals
Understand How you View the World
Learn to Relax Instantly
Gain More Self Belief
Make a Real Difference in Your Future
Overcome Phobias with the Fast Phobia Cure
Gain a Perfect Work/Life Balance
Improve Personal Belief and See How Others Change How They Respond To You
Have a Better Life and Positive Future
Increase Your Confidence and Motivational Levels
Let’s get started, let’s make some real changes, and use the online coaching course to change the direction of your life – starting today
What You Will Recive
Free 12 Page Personality Type Profile
Interactive Activities, E-Coaching Techniques, Videos, Presentations and Downloadable Audios
Achieve all your goals; 12 Week E-Coaching Course INSTANT DOWNLOAD – Over 36 e-coaching activities
If you have already brought the Online Coaching Course, you will receive the next set of exercise including your first audio session within 24 hours.
If you have download this extract for free and now you Want to buy the whole course to improve your confidence and self belief follow this link before the special offer runs out
This article comes from a great Life Coach Sandie Shaw from High Peak Life Coaching – Sandie specialises in working with women and uses some amazing techniques to boost peoples confidence to help you achieve your goal. if you haven’t already check out Sandie’s website for a free coaching appraisal do so now Why are some of our best ideas doomed to fail sometimes before we’ve even got started?
You intend to make an important phone call… but then it doesn’t seem so important after all. You thought you were going to the gym … but some how you never seem to get there. You were going to clean the car… but, nahh, manana.
Decisions like these are absolutely fine. We choose one option over another, one after the other and that’s how we make our way through our lives. Procrastination only becomes a problem when we end up later regretting the decision that we made. When we choose a low priority task over a high priority task. When we choose something that makes us feel better in the short term (a fleeting good feeling) over something that will make us feel good in the long term (a lasting good feeling). When actually, you really did want to go to the gym and now you feel unhealthy and fed-up. Because you really did want to make that phone call and now you’ve missed out on a great opportunity. Because actually, your car really is a mess and it seriously get’s you down!
Here are a few ideas to ensure procrastination doesn’t spoil your day. Top tips for beating procrastination.
Write your idea down on paper. When an idea or a personal goal materialises in your mind, capture it and make it real by writing it down. Until you write it down it is just a thought floating around in the back of your mind with lots of other thoughts which could be replaced our shifted out of your mind at any second. Crystallizing your goal in writing will make it real and far more likely to happen.
Really know ‘why’ you want to do what you want to do. Look at the value attached to your goal. Ask yourself, how will my life be improved in the long run if I do this? How will my life be improved in the long run if I don’t? Keep focusing on the key benefits of the goal.
Really know ‘how’ you will do it. Have a clear vision in your mind about how you will take action on your goal. How will you make a start? What will you do next? How will you finish? Run through the series of events in your mind and picture yourself actually doing it.
Recognise any positive intention that could be behind your procrastinating thoughts. Procrastination is not always a bad thing. If your thoughts are telling you to stay in and relax when the plan is to go out and see your friends, then it’s worth recognising this second desire. Stick to the plan but compromise by taking care of your conflicting need as the second priority. See your friends the first night and take time out for yourself the following night. See if you can meet both needs but on two different occasions.
If you have a number of things to do, do the most challenging and unpleasant task first. The unpleasant task is the task you are most likely to procrastinate over. Always do the hardest or most unpleasant task first.
Avoid getting into a mental discussion about doing the task at hand. Remember, you know what you want to do and why you want to do it and you know how to get started. Practice saying to yourself ‘no, this is not up for discussion’ and get started on that high priority task. The more you practice over-riding your procrastinating thought patterns with real physical action the quicker you will be able to handle procrastination next time it rears it’s ugly head.
Develop your HFT (High Frustration Tolerance). Lets face it, some jobs are no fun. Whether this is because we find a task difficult, awkward, boring or tedious, it doesn’t mean that it’s best avoided. We live in a pleasure seeking society, entertainment is a big part of our lives and instant gratification is often in constant supply. As a consequence, I believe we are losing the ability to tolerate things which do not give us instant gratification and sometimes we develop a low tolerance to frustrating activities (LFT). Although happiness is our birth-right, it is worth remembering that not everything we do is going to make us feel instantly good. Strengthen your ability to handle frustration and stay focused on the key benefits of doing what you are doing and remind yourself why it’s worth putting up with a little short term discomfort from time to time.
Know your goal in terms of your capabilities. If the goal is too easy you are likely to find it boring – can you make the task more interesting? Can you raise the bar a little higher? Do it quicker? Do it better? On the other hand, if the task is too challenging, then this might be a sticking point too. How can you improve your capabilities? What resources are available to you? Do you need some help? Does it have to be completely perfect? If you can get the balance right between the task at hand and your capabilities, then your task really will just flow.
Break down big jobs into small manageable tasks and keep at it, one small task at a time. Remember Michael Lotito the chap who achieved his bazaar goal to eat a whole airplane? (pictured above). Michael didn’t achieve this by biting off more than he could chew! He did it one tiny bite-size nibble at a time and kept at it over the course of two years until the whole plane was gone.
Tell several people what you intend to do. Make a pact with people and ask them for their support and encouragement. Get committed to your goal in public – it’s not so easy to procrastinate when everyone is watching you. Alternatively, find people who are wanting to do the same thing as you and move forward together as a team.
Reward yourself every time you beat procrastination and stick to your plan. Beating procrastination IS a big deal and it deserves to be recognised as such. Celebrate your good work! Celebrate small achievements as well as big ones. Next time you get stuck you will remember that you can beat procrastination; you’ve done it before, it feels great and you can do it again. Treat yourself, you deserve it!
If you enjoyed reading this article you will aslo enjoy reading:
Interactive activities; Videos, Presentations, E-book and Audios
Start taking control of your own life TODAY with your very own e-coach
I recently met a young lady named Michelle, who was waking up each morning feeling depressed and desperate, to the point where she had stopped going to work and stopped going out with her friends, she felt at the top of the downward spiral. Michelle told me she had no self belief and would often tell herself “I’m a horrid person who will fail at everything I try, people just don’t like me” it was this limiting belief that was stopping Michelle from moving forward with her life.
Do you ever feel like this, sad, lonely or depressed? Do you ever give yourself any negative self-talk that’s stops you achieving your goals? I told Michelle about the wide range of help she could receive from counselling to life coaching, she replied “I know a life coach can help me, but I can’t afford the hourly sessions!”
Ask yourself on a scale between1-10, with one representing your life is at an all time low and ten representing your life at its best; where on the scale would you place your life today?
Where on the scale do you want to be? Pick a number
What need to happen for you to move towards that higher number on the scale?
Because I know Life Coaching is value for money, I often ask myself “how much would you pay to have a more fulfilled life? What price would you pay to achieve your goals?” But, I have never thought about the people who need coaching sessions to make life changing decisions, but can’t afford one-to-one life coaching sessions.
Because I know anyone can achieve anything that they want to do, I gave myself a new goal “how can I offer affordable life coaching sessions to people who want to make real changes but cant afford face to face coaching sessions”after first thinking about offering discounted session, I realised after a couple of discounted sessions the cost would still add up and then it hit me, people can coach themselves as long as they have the tools – as I coach myself everyday.
The interactive online coaching course will give you over 36 coaching sessions to put you back in control of your life
Interactive activities; Videos, Presentations, E-book and Audios
Coaching sessions often cost between £50-£500 a session and many people will want 4-5 life coaching sessions; there are many advantages from having face to face coaching sessions but you know there are disadvantages too; limited sessions which means limited techniques, you can achieve one goal with face to face coaching sessions, but you will have more than one goal throughout our life which means you can re-use the online coaching course as much as you want throughout your life
The big advantages of an online coaching course are:
Having access to a wider range of tools and life coaching techniques
You will have a mixture of coaching session styles; e-book activities, videos, presentations and audios
Imagine being able to reuse session and techniques that I will teach you, which limits the problem of forgetting what happened in a face-to-face session
The activities can be used again and again, building on top of your confidence and achievements
You can share the course with other people, getting real value for money (some people share the course which means they can share the cost)
BIG DISCOUNT BELOW For this Month
The truth is, I can give you more tools, techniques and exercise to help you get away from the pain you feel about your current life and limiting beliefs and to help you achieve your goals, to be more successful and really believe in yourself, by offering the large online coaching course material which is full of MORE interactive activities than you would get from several face to face sessions.
Imagine you could build up your self esteem and confidence, picture yourself right now, achieving all your goals and making real changes to your life, make this image big and colourful. If you had the courage to make a life changing decisions now – what would be your first decision be to give you a better life? What changes would you make today? See yourself making these positive changes now.
By now, you know you want to make a change with your life which means you first have to make the decision to change – don’t just say I want a great life, you have to put yourself out there and change your life, you need to be committed, make the commitment now by ordering the online coaching course and I would add you need to use the techniques I will teach you that I use to get real results for my professional coaching clients .
We are only selling this course for a short period of time, to help people like you, who cant afford the cost of face-to-face coaching session – BUY NOW as this course will soon be taken off the market soon
It won’t always be easy, when you learnt to ride your bicycle for the first time, you probably fell off the bike a couple of times and then on a certain day it all came together you could ride the bike on your own, without the help of a parent holding the seat, remember how good it felt to be in control, to ride in any direction you wanted to? Coaching is the same; you will be given the tools to ride through your own life, after a couple of sessions, you will take the life stabilisers off your bike and feel free and in control of where you want to go. You might fall off the coaching bike but all you have to do is get up, brush the dirt of your pants and get back on the bike.
So, what do you get as part of this great deal?
Over 100 pages and 36 e-coaching sessions, including:
25 e-coaching techniques
5 videos
8 audios
Over 3 presentations and audios
In addition you will receive an individual 12 page personality type e-book document
FREE BONUS – Phobia Removal Session
The online coaching course has been design using all the interactive successful techniques the most famous coach’s use and we have improved these techniques which means you will achieve your goals quicker than before. Let me ask you this, how will the online coaching course help you?
Learn how to be in control of your life
Make better decisions
Set yourself real goals and learn how to achieve them
Learn how to reduce negative self talk
Access instant confidence whenever you need to
Feel good about yourself everyday
Gain self belief
Eliminate phobia, fears and negative emotions
Truly understand yourself and become the best you can be
In addition you will:
Understand how your body and mind work as one
Discover how your minds filter information which leads to your decision making process and motivation strategy
Learn how your personality type can help you achieve your goals
Gain a coaching diary to monitor your progress and record your success
The online coaching course is completely interactive and will make a real difference in your life, if you continue to do what you have been doing for years you will carry on getting the same results, if you do something different you will get a different result. Ask yourself what can I do differently?
You can probably already think of hundreds of ways the online coaching course can help you succeed in your life, your career and your future
For a real change you need to complete all the online coaching course activities, don’t just read them and doing nothing, absorb the information, take on board the lessons you are learning and enjoy the outcome to the new changes you are making. You can use the online coaching course to improve all areas of your life
Build new Confidence
Increase personal belief
Improve your career progression
Make better business deals
Enjoy longer lasting relationships
Have better health
Become stress free
Full Course breakdown
The Scales of Life – audio
Big Decisions, Big Changes
My Pain and My Pleasure
The Power of an Image
Wheel of life
Goal Setting
Life is on a Logical Level
Finding Happiness
Picture Plan – presentation
What Do You Like About Me?
Eliminate Negative Voices – audio
Daily Diary
The Future You
Picture Confidence – audio
Picture Frame – audio
How We View the World
Changing your Beliefs
Miracle Question – audio
What are your Limiting Beliefs?
Reframing your Negative Beliefs – presentation
Life on a Timeline
Timeline – video
Timelines; Destroying Bad Decisions
Your Imagination – audio
Image Board
Is there a Positive Intent? – video
Are You Unconsciously Competent?
Donut; is the taste in the jam?
Dancing your Problems Away
Scaling
What’s Your Mission
Metaphor Story – audio
Success; where to find it
Your Personality; Faults and Gains
Commitment Card – presentation
Spinning – Video
Finding Role Models
Life from a Different View – Video
Spinning – Video
The Wheel Keeps Turning
Your Next New Goal
BONUS – Fast Phobia Removal Video
You will receive different segments of the e-course every couple of days throughout a 3 month period, giving you the time to complete the e-coaching activities and check what you have already learned. We have purposefully not sent you the whole course in one go as the course content is massive and this would be an information overload, the course is sent to you in a certain order to keep building on the activities and the success they will bring, giving you time to take in all the new learning you are gaining.
What are our Customers Saying?
“To get straight to the point here, thanks a huge amount for the online coaching course” Barnaby – Greater Manchester
“Wow I Feel So Positive Now – Amazing Course” Phil – Manchester
What goals do you want to achieve within 3 months or sooner?
How much would you pay to feel confident and in control of your life?
What would be the best possible outcome from completing the online e-coaching course
What would you be missing out on if you didn’t buy this e-course today?
How would you feel is you missed this opportunity to change your life?
For over 36 e-activities, sent over a 3 month period
The Online E-Coaching Course is
Only £99.99
This Months Price; Save Over 75%
For a Limited Time Only You Can DownLoad the Whole 12 Week Coaching Course in One Go For a Discounted Price.
If you could have any job you wanted and it didn’t matter about qualifications or experience you had and all jobs paid the same salary, what position would you pick?
What do you value in your career?
Is your current career meeting your values?
What is your career goal?
How important is achieving your career goal to you?
Are you willing to take a pay cut or attending new training to gain your career goal?
If not, why not? How can you overcome this barrier?
If yes, what will you be losing by doing this?
What resources do you need to step on to the career ladder?
What do you believe will happen when you achieve your career goal?
Can you get this outcome any other way?
What is the first thing you are going to do to move towards this career goal?
Do you love or hate your career? Do you wake up excited about going to work to face a new challenge or
do you have the Monday morning blues? Why is it, that some enjoy work while others hate it?
When I started out giving careers advice, learning why some people enjoyed going to work, while others didn’t was my mission and the
answer is Values! If you have a job that matches your values and your personalitytype – you will enjoy your successful career; Today you will learn what Your Career Values are.
Values
What is important to you in your career? Write down your answers below
Example Values
Your Values
Money
Career progression
Working with others
Seeing the end result to my work
Working close to home
Having targets
Feedback
Personal development
Flexibility
Reliability
Ongoing support
Variation
Now you have a list of your career values; you need to put them in order of importance, which of your values is more important to you? If you had a choice would you take a job that had value A or value B?
Your Values in Order of Importance
Once you know your career values and the values you most require, ask your self could I have a job that didn’t have Value X? – Answer this question for all the values on your list.
People who accept a job offer with a company who don’t have the same values will soon become bored, agitated or stressed which will lead to them quitting their job or becoming depressed and ill.
Take your top 3 values and ask “why is it important to me to have X value?” as an example; variation – because I get bored quickly and when I am bored I constantly have time off work, which often leads to me being sacked. This will you understand your values in more detail and is an insight to what motivates you Pain or Pleasure?
I was once working with a client who was quickly becoming depressed due to his job, when we looked at his Values, his number one value was “helping other people” when asked what his job was, he said “sales” whenwe discussed that his career values were opposite to his role, he originally disagreed as he had been working in sales for 10 years and only felt like this in the last 12 months.
After we explored this we found out that even though he had been in sales for 10 years for the past 14 months, he had been a new sales job selling what he said was “unnecessary insurance policies” – this is the opposite to his Helping people Values. His previous job was selling Medical Machinery to hospitals which was proven to save lives – BIG Helping People Value’s, he felt the machines he sold would help save peoples live, he sees himself as someone who helped other people (his number one value)
Your values drive who you are (your personality), for a successful career pick a role and a company that have the same values that you require – what you believe is important to you.
If you enjoyed reading this article you will also enjoy reading:
Procrastination is an avoidance of a task that needs to be accomplished, people often avoid starting or completing an important task because of their negative emotion towards the task; guilt, anxiety, inadequacy or fear of the unknown.
Procrastination can stop you being successful
Many people avoid success, because they put obstacles in their own path, sabotaging their own efforts. This can include small task such as not paying bills on time, missing opportunities by not using a gift voucher by the use by date, leaving the Christmas shopping until the last minute.
You may be reading this and thinking “it’s not too bad leaving your shopping to the last minute or not using a gift voucher..” and I would add it’s not about missing just one opportunity, it’s about self-regulation which doesn’t mean procrastination is about time management, it means procrastinators is about your decision making strategy.
If you have a negative decision making strategy that you use throughout your personal life and your career, you will fail to gain any success
A person with a positive decision making strategy will feel good about their decisions, starting and finishing task, learning from any mistakes and having a positive approach to starting new opportunities.
Procrastinators often say:
“I will do it tomorrow”
“this isn’t important at the moment”
“I work best when I’m under pressure”
Even thought procrastinators use these statements all the time, they often wake up the next morning without wanting to start yesterday’s task, they still feel the task isn’t important and they don’t work well under pressure. Instead they look for distractions and more excuses.
Procrastination will believe:
If they ignore a task, it will go away
Lesser standards are acceptable
They can complete large task in a small amount of time
Substituting a lesser task for an important task is acceptable, saying to themselves that the lesser task also needed completing
Minor delays are harmless – so I can repeat them
Spending more time on part of the task is important then completing the whole task on time, or dramatising the commitment to the task rather then starting the task
Overcoming Procrastination:
Make a list of what makes putting something off painful for you – why do you hate putting tasks off
Make a list of the benefits of starting a task straight away, why does it feel good when you get things done quickly?
·Put yourself in a positive state, remember a time when you felt good, when you were feeling really keen to get on with things
·Do the task NOW if possible don’t put it off
·Be honest with yourself – if you can only spend a certain amount of time on task, admit it, as this stops GUILT
·Brain storm what you need to do and how you can achieve it
·Set Goals and reward yourself when you achieve them
·Prioritise task
·Start with an easy part of the task
·Break any task down into manageable steps, allowing yourself enough time to complete each step or stage
·Address any problems as they arise – get help from others when needed
·Be reasonable with yourself, don’t think all task can reach ‘perfection’
·Continue to start task straight away, with everyday (and all) activities, as repetition will turn your new positive decision making strategy automatic
By following these steps, putting yourself in a positive mood, breaking down each task into easy to manage steps and starting with a small task straight away will help you to quickly overcome procrastination, once you use these strategy for all task in your life and career you will soon see the difference in your attitude and how others view you
If you enjoyed reading this article you will also enjoy reading:
What stops most people moving forward with their life? The fear of failing – just the thought that you might make a mistake, you may get it wrong or you might fail, can stop people even trying something new. It’s not the fear of failure it’s the fear of criticism and rejection that people fear the most, which means if you didn’t fear the thought of criticism or rejection, what you can achieve is unlimited.
Successful people make mistakes (like the rest of us) but they don’t see a mistake as a failure but see the mistake as feedback, a learning curve a chance to move forward.
Unsuccessful people limit themselves and only achieve a fraction of what they are capable of achieving, because they are scared that they will fail – they feel they will be criticized.
This article will help you overcome fear and to gain your goals.
When you think of trying something new you will make a visual representation of this event in your minds eye. This image, you will create will either be positive (you will see yourself being successful) or negative (you will imagine yourself failing) which will result in you FEELING positive or negative.
If your negative feelings are strong, you will often make the decision not to complete this task.
To overcome this, when you think of a negative image/future event in your minds eye, change the color of this image to black and white. If the image is more like a film, pause the film and make it into a stilled picture. Put a big frame around the picture and slowly move the image away from you, further and further away so the picture becomes smaller and smaller – how do you feel now?
As you change the submodalities of the image you will also change your emotional response to the image – you won’t feel negativity or fear. You will need to complete this exercise 2-3 times.
Without fear will you be more willing to “give it a go” and once you start trying new activities you will get new results.
You need to be persistent, when you want to make a real change to your life. If you want to be successful you will need to look at different ways to achieve your goal. Some ideas will work and some wont, the trick here is to never give up and after each activity ask yourself what have I learnt from this experience? Remember if you carry on doing things in the same way you will get the same result.
An opportunity to learn.
When making any change you will make mistakes, think of any failure as a learning experience. What did you learn from the experience that will help you in the future? How can you use this experience to improve yourself or your situation? What could I of done to prevent the mistake? What will you do differently next time? What has been good about making this mistake – what have I learnt?
If you enjoyed reading this article you will also enjoy reading:
