The 73 Rules of Interview Influence

The 73 Rules of Interview Influence – Job Interveiw book

Employment king is releasing a new book The 73 Rules for Influencing the Interview using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques. If you want to stand out in the job interview, if you want the employer to see you as pure gold, you will want to buy this book. Influencing the interview will give you the tools to beat even the most fierce competition.

  • Rule No.1 Blow Out The Competition With a Secret Sales Pitch

Have an end game in mind from the beginning, create a strategy and use your unique selling point to crush the competition

 

  • Rule No.2 Three Steps to Annihilation 

Use the psychology of sales to annihilate the competition by becoming a desirable commodity

 

  • Rule No.3 Stand Next to Stupid and Look Smart

To look more attractive stand next to the ugly person in the room, to look taller stand next to a short person, to appear smart stand next to someone stupid, as our mind is influence by comparison

 

  • Rule No.4 Get Inside The Interviewer’s Head

Understand employers’ desires and offer it to them on a plate, become an object of aspiration, by the time you have finished, the interviewer will be fighting hard to control their impulse to offer you the job on the spot

 

  • Rule No.5 Become a Valuable Asset

Money makes the world go round, highlight your value and the interviewer will have a longing to recruit you, as high value is always associated with quality

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  • Rule No.6 Alien Manipulation

Manipulation is employed by a seduction artist to sleep with the opposite sex; this technique is easily tweaked to manipulate the employers will

 

  • Rule No.7 Discovering the Power of Values

Values and beliefs have started wars, genocides and put man on the moon – match the employer’s values and beliefs and become unstoppable

 

  • Rule No.8 Make Your Interview Passionate  

A passionate speech can influence thousands of people, mobilising a new workforce or persuading individuals to take arms against their oppressors. Be passionate and believe in your argument, influence the employer with passionate expression

 

  • Rule No.9 MI5 Agent Technique

MI5 agents use rapport, influence and manipulation to infiltrate the enemy; they become an expert in the disguise and character identity, convincing the enemy that they are someone they are not

 

  • Rule No.10 Cheat the Interview

Never lie obviously, give generalised feedback to questions and let the interviewer make their own opinion. Say your answers with confidence and quote researched information like it is your own opinion, as long as it highlights your expertise

 

  • Rule No.11 Learn the Secret Language of Interviews

A secret language is used in sector specific interviews, learn this hidden communication and appropriately utilise terminology. With just a few memorised sentences verbalised in this foreign tongue you can appear fluent in this strange language

 

  • Rule No.12 Secret Detective

To solve the case you need to dissect the crime scene and research the suspects, identifying key details in the investigation. In the interview knowledge is power; your research will help you locate the winning interview formula

 Under the psychology of sales in job interviews

  • Rule No.13 Undersell Yourself at Your Peril  

Dry and dull interviews will not do you any favours, make the conversation light, fun and intriguing, using this opportunity to highlight all your relevant transferable skills – you must make yourself sound like a well rounded package

 

  • Rule No.14 Wear a Condom

Stay safe! Being caught in a tricky situation can break or make the interview, seduce the employer by playing it safe until they are under your control, once manipulated you can lead and direct the interview

 

  • Rule No.15 Not Cocky But Confident

Act how you want to be seen, make this impression last and in time you will naturally adopt this character unconsciously

 

  • Rule No.16 Pain and Pleasure

Choices and decisions are made through the motivational influence of pain and pleasure (the carrot and stick) by controlling your own pain and pleasure influences you can delete interview fears and access interview confidence

 

  • Rule No.17 Limit the Limiting Beliefs

A person’s belief system will change the direction of their life from failure to success, in an interview your belief system alone will be the difference to a job offer or an interview failure

 

  • Rule No.18 Steal Confidence From Others

Can you really be accused of thievery when you’re only stealing mental information and systems from others? This technique will open new doors for you, just don’t get caught doing it!

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  • Rule No.19 Give Your Voice a Boost

Have you ever attended a meeting when all you wanted to do was fall asleep as the speakers/chair/your co-workers were so boring – their voices monotone droning on. Entertain your interviewer with your voice

 

  • Rule No.20 Show Your Nerves, Confidently  

Too much confidence means you’re too cocky, but if you’re too nervous then you’re no use to any employer. Win job interviews with a mix of confidence and nervousness; learn when you should sound nervous and when you should project confidence

 

  • Rule No.21 Playing With the Devil

Negative self talk will kill your interview, don’t listen to the devil in your head or it will be the death of you, eradicate negative self talk and feel a new growth in confidence

 For a full breakdown of each rule click here: Influence in Interviews

  • Rule No.22 Destroy Painful Interview Memories

Our subconscious mind teaches us how to act in situations through learning from our past experiences. But when these experiences are negative your subconscious will attempt to keep you away from similar experiences, to overcome the fear of interviews you need to destroy any attached negative memories

 

  • Rule No.23 Fast Interview Phobia Removal Technique

A person can have a real fear of spiders, heights and even job interviews as with all phobias these can be overcome but this often takes years of therapy. NLP offers us a way to rid your phobia quickly

 

  • Rule No.24 Destructive Nightmares

Anxiousness controls you and will destroy your spirit, keeping you awake the night before the interview. An instant sleep technique will relax you, calm you down and offer you the best chance on the day of the interview

 

  • Rule No.25 Don’t Let Your Handshake Show Your True Emotions

You are trying to impress people with your appearance, communication skills and body language, don’t let your moist hands let you down; this simple technique will change the interviewer’s first impression of you

 Persuade any Interviewer with these 73 techniques

  • Rule No.26 Disarm the Interviewer with Your Handshake

The interviewer is always trying to figure out the real you, a neutral handshake won’t give too much away which will intrigue the employer, but an overpowering handshake shows dominance – which is best for you?

 

  • Rule No.27 The God Voice Technique

A feeble voice portrays weakness, answer interview questions with power and confidence; find your God voice  

 

  • Rule No.28 Master Memory Model

Impress the interviewer with your memory capacity.  Increase your power of influence by being able to recall an abundance of information, facts and figures

 

  • Rule No.29 Influence with Posture

Your body speaks volumes; with a little training you can use your posture to gain acceptance, to build rapport and to illustrate authority  

  • Rule No.30 The Secret Power of Your Unconscious

Why wait for the employer to speak before you start to influence the interviewer, a master influencer will be able to read the non verbal cues giving them the edge over other applicants and dominate the interviewer

 Dominate your next interview

  • Rule No.31 Read the Interviewer Like a Book

Without knowing it the interviewer will give away their feelings and thoughts through their body language, use this silent communication to control the interviewer

 

  • Rule No.32 Look Away and Miss the Hidden Clues the Eyes Give Away

The eyes are the windows to the interviewer’s soul, hidden in them are the clues as to what we are thinking, go one step further and use the eyes to mind read the interviewer giving you a real advantage over other less committed interviewees

 

  • Rule No.33 Use Distracting Words at Your Peril

Words have power; the language you use can give you an edge, creating instant rapport and likeability or creating disinterest and confusion, leading to a breakdown in communication and likability

 

  • Rule No.34 Build Likeability through Commonality 

People like people who are like them, to influence your interviewer focus on commonality and build on this growing friendship as we find it hard to say no to someone we like

 

  • Rule No.35 Energise the Interviewer

The difference between Extrovert or Introvert interviewers is how they acquire their energy, by mastering how to influence this personality trait you will increase the spirit of the interview

 Use hypnotic persuasion in job interviews

  • Rule No.36 Influence the Interviewers Decision Making Process

The interviewer’s role is to make a decision – to choose the best candidate. By influencing the interviewer’s decision-making process you can, at the extreme persuade the interviewer to employ you  

 

  • Rule No.37 Disguise the Information You Give the Employer

We process information differently depending on our personality type, once you master how your interviewer will filter your information you can use this knowledge to infiltrate the employer’s thought process  

 

  • Rule No.38 Deliver Your Answers the Way They Will Be Best Understood

Interview stress kills the interview, the interviewer after interviewing all day will feel pressured, tired and on the edge of annoyance – be sure not to fall into the trap of stressing the interviewer by wrongly presenting the structure of your interview

 

  • Rule No.39 Persuade Through Personality

We are all different which means to be successful in all interviews you need to change your approach to influence each individual interviewer. A one way approach will be the death of your interview persuasion technique

 

  • Rule No.40 Predict The Interview Questions

The power to predict interview questions allows you to prepare your answers with detail and precision, with the final result having a greater impact then your counterpart’s efforts

 

  • Rule No.41 Get The Experts To Give You The Answers

Don’t do the leg work yourself ask the experts for the answers, use their power answers to emphasize your expertise and to pass interviews with confidence

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  • Rule No.42 Become a Website Detective

Only a fool doesn’t understand the power of knowledge, with research you will be able to uncover the company secrets that will guarantee you an offer in employment

 

  • Rule No.43 Structuring Your Interview Answers Will Increase the Acceptability of the Interviewer  

Most interviewees don’t understand the real structure of the interview process; they listen to a question and give a quick answer praying for the interview to be over. To be successful you need to understand how to structure your interview answer, the structure will create the basis for influencing

 

  • Rule No.44 Repetition Increases Skill

Practice makes perfect, without practice you will be compelled to rush the interview and to fail. With practice comes an increase in skill and an increase in confidence – a winning formula for an interview

 

  • Rule No.45 Conceal Your True Purpose in a Mock Interview

Repetition is the key to mastering any skill, increase your interview skills and practice your persuasion techniques by using a real interview as a rehearsal, testing your manipulation with your true purpose concealed

 

  • Rule No.46 Create a Persuasion Loop

The end of the interview is more likely to be remembered then the start, use this section to reiterate your unique selling points  

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  • Rule No.47 Interactive and Energetic Presentations Create Intrigue

A presentation gives you the opportunity to manipulate the interview as you will have an uninterrupted focus; create intrigue, highlight your expertise and add hypnotic language patterns throughout – this will only work with practice       

  • Rule No.48 Get Others to Do The Hard Work – Get the Receptionist To Sell you to the Boss

We believe others, especially when they have no interest in the outcome or invested interest. Through the psychology of social proof; get an outsider to sell you to the interviewer and receive a boost through a positive character reference

 

  • Rule No.49 Turn Other Interviewees into Nervous Wrecks

Control the opposition, make them like you and then destroy them using mental mind tricks without them even knowing what damage you have caused

 

  • Rule No.50 Increase Likeness by Using Names

Remembering names increase likeness and likeness creates rapport – with a friendship in a bag you can influence the interviewer through the psychology of “liking” and people find it hard to say no to people they like

 

  • Rule No.51 Catch Big Fish with Big Hooks

Understand the interviewer’s requirements and use this as bait, offer the interviewer what they want, add a little extra and they will be hooked

 Master influential language in interviews

  • Rule No.52 Gain the Interviewers Agreement

Nodding at the interviewers key points will increase rapport, once in rapport you can encourage agreement by nodding while explaining your key selling points which will influence the interviewer to agree with you

 

  • Rule No.53 Infect the Interview

Likeability and rapport will affect the interview outcome, once you learn how to increase rapport you will affect the interviewers view of you at the bare minimum with an increase of likeness and at the utmost creating a passionate connection

 

  • Rule No.54 Take the Interviewer on a Journey of Discovery

Be the author of the interview, take control by pacing the interviewer and use rapport to direct and lead the interviewer on a new journey

 

  • Rule No.55 Interrogate the Competition

Everyone has a weakness, a fault, their own Achilles heel; it may be insecurity, procrastination or even an obsessive compulsive disorder, discover the limitations of the competition and exploit this

 

  • Rule No.56 Create an Aura of Power

A group interview is one way for the employer to quickly disqualify those that they feel are lacking in the essential criteria required for the position. To stand out in a group interview you need to create an aura of power while making the other interviewees seem weak and helpless

 

  • Rule No.57 Motivate With Pain, Motivate With Pleasure

People are motivated through pain or pleasure, discover your interviewer’s motivational trait and discover their weakness   

 Increase your interview chances – make a bigger impression

  • Rule No.58 When You Don’t Agree with the Employer’s Point of View Change the Direction of the Conversation

A negative discussion started by the interviewer reflects badly on you through association; learn to direct any conversation, any negative comment to a positive topic of your choice  

 

  • Rule No.59 Gain Compliance By Getting the Employer to Agree With Everything You Say

To gain interviewer’s compliance, convince the interviewer to let their guard down, once they are open you can attack – manipulating as you see fit

 

  • Rule No.60 Only Change the Employer’s Opinion if the Employer Has Negative Thoughts Towards You

When an employer takes a dislike to you, you need to manipulate the employer to first gain attraction, second to increase intrigue and thirdly for the interviewer to see you as commodity as precious as pure gold

 

  • Rule No.61 Turn the Interviewer into a ‘Yes’ Man

Tag lines are used to gain compliance, they are highly powerful and need to be used only at certain points during the interview, when used you can encourage agreement and at the extreme the employer will comply with everything you tell them

 

  • Rule No.62 Demand The Employer To Give You The Job

Make demands by secretly hiding them in conversation, this will bypass the conscious mind turning your interviewer into a puppet controlled by you

 

  • Rule No.63 Suggest to the Employer Not to Offer You the Job

Mess with the interviewer’s mind, use reverse psychology – suggest that they don’t offer you a job which will compel them to offer you the position, the interviewer won’t understand why they are so compelled to hire you  

 

  • Rule No.64 Conceal Your Intentions by Simulating Choice

Suggest choice but don’t offer any, the interviewer will believe they have options but in reality they will have none

 

  • Rule No.65 Make the Puppet Dance

Control the interviewer, put your words in their mouth and make them think and act the way you want them to, at the bare minimum you will lead the employer, when used with proficiency you will be in command

 

  • Rule No.66 Use Social Proof to Influence – get others to highlight your strengths

People are sheep who will follow others and believe what they are told without any proof, sway the interviewer by quoting your past employer’s high appreciation of you

 

  • Rule No.67 Create a Fantasy  

Hidden meanings are understood unconsciously through stories and metaphors; create intrigue, anticipation and the interviewer will want to know more, this technique can help create a strong identity  

 

  • Rule No.68 An Argument Will Only Show Your Weakness

Negative put-downs can rupture the whole interview process and will make you look weak; handling negativity masterfully will not only save your skin but put the power back in your hands

 

  • Rule No.69 Turn Around the Tide of Power; Interview the Interviewer

The power in an interview is unbalanced, take control, switch around the balance of power and gain authority – be careful this technique can back fire if you over exert your new found power

 

  • Rule No.70 Master the Art of Performance

Don’t rely on the interviewer to remember you, create an unforgettable performance and like all shows leave the audience wanting more

 

  • Rule No.71 Offer A Diamond With One Hand, Take It Away With The Other

Scarcity increases want, as we all want what we can’t have. Close the deal by offering them everything they want and more, and then just as quick take it all away

 

  • Rule No.72 End as You Started with Manipulation Mind

To finalise your impact on the interview, secure an emotional attachment with the employer – don’t grow too comfortable at the end of the interview as your weaknesses may finally be uncovered

 

  • Rule No.73 Look For Your Own Weakness and Stamp It Out

Pre-empt the employer, discover your own weakness and evolve into the final product through personal feedback. Become a master of interviews and an influencer of interviewers

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How to Influence Interviews Using NLP

How to Influence Interviews Using NLP

After working in the careers industry for many years I am shocked by how competitive each individual position is, with one national company recently had over 2000 applicants apply for a low-level position.

Job hunters have to step up their game and go above and beyond general interview techniques to win more job offers. One way to beat the competition is by using NLP to influence the job interview.

 

NLP is a great tool for influencing job interviews, as NLP isn’t just one technique it composes of a mixture of techniques that you can pull out of the bag when required and today I will share several of these techniques with you.

Rapport Building with Employers 

Building good rapport is essential in the job interview as employers offer more jobs to people they like, in many cases with interviewers offering positions to people they like over more experienced applicants.

 To gain rapport first find common ground with the interviewer, while the interviewer is having the initial chat with you designed to calm down nervous interviewees you can probe for what you have in common and then use this common ground to increase rapport. We have all heard candidates being picked because they wore the “old school tie”

We all communicate differently; the reason for this is due to the way we take in the information around us. Simply put we have a preference to one of our senses even though we use them all; auditory, visual or kinaesthetic. An interviewer will talk using words relating to their preferred sense which means to communicate effectively you can use their words to ensure your message sinks in.  

  • Visual people will us words such as; sight, see, picture, imagine, view
  • Auditory people will use words such as; hear, sound, clear as a bell,
  • Kinaesthetic people will use words such as; feel, touch, hard, warmth

 You will realise the importance of using the interviewer’s language when you next try to get a point across to someone who just doesn’t understand what you mean. When this happens change your words to match their representational system and notice how they see things as clear as day.

 The Employers Point of View

To win job offers you need to prepare. Where most people fail though is by not looking at the interview from the employer’s point of view. Instead of just memorizing your interview answers use your imagination to play out the interview from the employers viewpoint – imagine you as the employer interviewing yourself, notice how you sit, notice your posture and become aware of everything that makes up the employers impression of you – how well do you answer questions, do you sound confident, do your answers ring true? Do you as the employer get a good feeling about the interviewee? What is your first gut feeling? Do you feel warm or cold towards this person? Use this inside knowledge to improve your interview techniques, look for both your strength and your areas of development.

 Confidence in a Job Interview 

 To win any job interview you need to feel confident. At an interview, you need to be able to access confidence in a few seconds. A great way to access confidence is by using an NLP anchor, an NLP anchor will allow you to trigger as positive emotion such as confidence when required.  

To build a trigger, I want you to think about 5 past events or activities when you felt really confident. In your mind I want you to play out each event as if you are there now – seeing the event from your own eyes, as you play out this movie turn up the sound and make the picture bigger and brighter until you feel fully associated with it.

As you do this, you start to relive that positive feeling, let the confidence feeling grow stronger and stronger in your body until it’s at its peak and then squeeze your finger and thumb together as you do this imagine all the confidence from around your body rushing towards the squeezed fingers at the speed of light.

Do this with all 5 past activities. Afterward, test your trigger by squeezing your finger and thumb together, if it has been successful you should feel confident as soon as your squeezed fingers touch. Now you can use this trigger to access a confident feeling just before your job interview.

This is just a quick sample of how NLP can be used in job interviews but to really master influencing the interview, you can read the new book The 73 rules for influencing the interview using psychology, NLP and hypnotic persuasion techniques.

 

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Influencing the Job Interview 6 Principles of Persuasion

Influencing the Job Interview using the 6 Principles of Persuasion by Dr. Robert Cialdini

 

As a leader in the laws of influencing and persuasion Dr. Robert Cialdini’s book The Psychology of Influence is an insightful read on the principals of influencing and persuasion techniques. We have taken what Dr Cialdini researched in his book and made it relevant to the job interview to help you win more job offers achieving your career success.

 

The six principles of influence can be used in a job interview to get more job offers, be warned though, as discussed in the book “influencing the interview” some of these techniques can be dark and dangerous, but they will increase your chances of securing you a 6 figure job offer.

 

 

First Principle: COMMITMENT

 

People like to follow through on their commitments; we all strive for consistency and when we commit verbally or in writing to something, we won’t want to back out of this commitment. Which is why pick artist, master persuaders and powerful business leaders use the principle of commitment to persuade and influence.

 

To win job offers you first need to gain the employers commitment, if they commit to employing you during the interview they won’t want to change their mind. This principle is powerful in job interviews, because if you influence the employer to say Yes to your questions there unlikely to back out, which means you will want to set up a yes set with a hidden command.

 

A yes set has been used in ‘sale’ pitches for years, for this to work you need to say several truisms – facts that can only be answered with a “yes.” Such as “you reading this document…” as you can’t deny that you were reading this document. After stating 2-3 truisms you can add a ‘lead’ – a lead is the thing you want the employer to say Yes to, such as “you’re looking to recruit someone with my experience?”

 

Hypnotherapist use this technique all the time to take clients into a trance “as you are sat on the chair (yes) breathing in and out (yes)… you are starting to feel sleepy (lead)

 

In a job interview you could create a yes set with “you recently won a new contract (yes) with several demanding targets to achieve (yes) which means you’re looking to recruit someone with my experience… (lead)

 

Don’t kill the interview by waiting to be asked a question. An interview isn’t a set of questions and answers, an interview is a conversation and throughout a conversation both parties will ask and answer questions.While you’re questioning the employer you can keep gaining commitment, building commitment on top of commitment by using the rest of the techniques in this article, designed to influence your next job interview.

 

Second Principle: RECIPROCATION

 

People feel indebted to others who do/give something to them. Supermarkets use this rule constantly; it is rare to walk throughout a supermarket without their being a free giveaway sample of cheese, meat or alcohol. This great scam works through the rule of reciprocation, as customers are more likely to buy a product because they have been given a free sample.

 

Do something ‘nice’ for the employer – an unselfish gesture and they will want to return the favour. Depending on your industry you could use this influential principle by offering the employer a day’s free work. For this to work you don’t need to wait for the job interview, apply for positions on spec (which is why the technique only works for certain industries)  and offer the employer £50 for you to work for them for free for a day – that’s right you pay the employer to work for them for free. With the condition that if they like your work ethic they have to offer you a job but if they feel you won’t fit in with their organization they keep the £50.

 

This technique works because people who will offer up a day’s free work are generally good workers and because you have offered the employer a free day’s work, the employer will feel more compelled to offer you a job position.

 

Wimpy quite candidates are never offered jobs. In the job interview you have to play this technique a little differently as it is hard to offer the employer a free sample of your work during the interview itself. To overcome this you can offer the employer information, knowledge and ideas. In the Influencing the Interview book we talk about adding value to the organisation by using your industry knowledge (Authority principle) to add value to what the employer is discussing.

 

As an example the employer may be discussing a new piece of expensive software that they will be investing in, you can give away your knowledge for free “that piece of software is really good but is very expensive to run, a new product used in the USA is being realised in the UK next month, basically it does the same job for half the price. After the interview I can e-mail you a link to the product website so you can decide for yourself.” 

 

What you are doing here is saving the company money before they employ you, with the interviewer thinking if you will give this gem away for free, what will I get when I employ you? And because you gave away some valuable information that will assist the company the interviewer will more compelled to do something ‘nice’ for you and offer you the job.

 

Third Principle: SCARCITY

 

We all want what we can’t have; while in a recession the employer has the upper hand, they know hundreds of people will apply for each advertised position, in other words they have the pick of the crop. The good news is, out of all the hundreds of candidates that applied for the position, only around 6 will be interviewed – this is the interviewer telling you that they are interested.

 

Next you need to make yourself scarce, unique or valuable. You need to think about the value you can bring to the organization, what do you possess that others don’t? How will you increase the company profits? How will employing you add value to their organization? And more importantly if they don’t employ you what will they miss out on, especially if you become the employers competition as an employee at a competitive company.

 

Don’t have an interview hart-attack, speak up and get your selling point across to the employer, if you don’t tell them they won’t know. Once the employer is hooked, once they see you as pure gold and as the employer is ready to offer you a job, let them know how employers from other competitive organizations have already offered you a position and the company is troubling you for an answer –  result: the interviewer will feel compelled to win you over before they miss out.

   

Forth Principle: AUTHORITY

 

People listen, trust and follow experts; who would you want to operate on you, a newly qualified doctor or an expert specializing in your operation? A no-brainier! Even on a more basic level you may be out buying some new decking for a home DIY project. While in the local DIY shop your examining two different decking products, when the shop assistant comes along and tells you about the pro’s and con’s of each product and then finally recommends product A – which product would you choose? Most of us will go with the expert’s recommendation – what they don’t know is that the shop assistant has only worked their two weeks. Authority can also be increased by a verity of external aspects including your voice tone and  the clothes you wear. If the shop assistant is dressed as DIY person, you are more likely to take their advice.

 

You don’t have to be an authority to persuade, as you can influence people by coming across as an expert. In the job interview you have to be seen as an expert in your industry, as this will increase your value (scarcity principle) and will give you the upper hand in the interview. Also people believe experts and won’t always question your general statements, if they believe you are an authority on the subject. You can learn to come across as an expert in your job sector in just a few days, which we discuss in the influencing the interview book.

 

Knowledge is the key to power; the more you learn about your industry the more you will sound like an expert. Continue to increase your knowledge by reading articles on your industries sector skills website, question people on industry forums and by working in a career you love – this way you will enjoy learning and evolving in this job role. Finally with all this expertise in your head, share it with the employer, explain how this knowledge of yours will benefit the organization, how you can increase productivity, how you will win new contracts and save on overheads – show the employer how you will put your knowledge into practice (Reciprocation principle)

 

Fifth Principle: LIKING

 

People find it hard to say no to people they like; you hear it all the time when people gain job interviews or are even offered positions because they were recommended by a friend who already works at that particular company.  This works because the new employee is associated to the friend recommending them; the employer thinks worker A is good so his friend must be good to or he wouldn’t recommend her. In reality this generalization isn’t always true, but the power behind the principle of liking can affect the employers mind.

 

During the job interview you can increase liking by finding common ground; you both support the same football team, you both went to the same school, you both play badminton or attend church on a regular basis. It doesn’t matter how you find common ground, just find it as this will first help the employer to remember you and will increase your rapport. It has also been proven that attractive people are offered more jobs which mean’s you need to make an effort with your appearance before every interview.

 

Don’t become an interview enemy. You can increase rapport, increasing the employer liking you by mirroring the employers body movements in a suitable way. To do this pace the employers posture – sit how they are sitting, as they move (as an example slightly leading forward) copy them (you slightly lean forward) and once in full rapport, you can lead your employer; as you move they will unconsciously mirror your body movements. To initially gain rapport you can influence someone by complementing them, people love to be told nice things about themselves and if you ‘like’ them, they will like you.

 

Sixth Principle: SOCIAL PROOF

 

People are sheep; most people follow others, especially when their uncertain about a course of action – to feel comfortable we will go with the crowd. In a job interview you cant get a hundred people to tell the employer to hire you because of your expertise, if you could you would easily gain more job offers as interviewers often feel uncertain with the decision of who to employee.

 

In a group interview you can use your expertise (Authority principle) and rapport (Liking principle) to create an aura of power around you. By highlighting your expertise to the group while increasing your liking from others, you will create an identity for yourself “s/he will definitely be offered one of the positions…” this can identity can easily spread throughout the group and to the employers “we need to interview him/her, have you heard what everyone has been saying…”

 

In a one to one interview you have to create social proof in a different way, to do this quote past employers throughout your interview praising yourself for past successes and I would add it is easier to praise yourself when you’re using a quote.

 

Employers want to be told who to employ, if you can stand out by showing your expertise, the value you can add to the organisation and top this by getting others to say “your great” through quotes or even from other interviewees, you will increase your job offers.

 

Authors use this same technique all the time, look on the back of any good book and you will see a testimonial, and what is a testimonial it’s social proof – others are telling you to buy this book.

 

The 73 rules for Influencing the Interview using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques.

 

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Based in Manchester we offer face to face careers advice session and we also offer a national career service to people through out the UK via telephone. If you are looking for professional career advice from Employment Kings leading career coaches you can book a telephone careers advice session with our national telephone career service, by clicking this link: National Telephone Careers Service.

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Influencing the Interview

Influencing the Interview

 

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Times are hard for job hunters with on average over 300 applicants applying for each individual position. Job hunters have it even harder with competition for jobs coming from across the globe, due to the worldwide recession. To win job offers in these competitive times, you need to stand out in job interviews, you need to add value to the employer and you need to learn how to influence the interview.

Employment king is releasing a new powerful book designed to blow away your interview competition, but be warned some of these techniques are dark and dangerous. The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using NLP, Psychology and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques has been designed to give you the upper hand in your next job interview.

Techniques range from using the dark arts of sales psychology, to turning other interviewees into nervous wrecks. You will learn how Mind Read the employers and how to manipulate by using hypnotic language to persuade the interviewer to offer you a job.

 

Influencing The Interview is due for release on 13th July 2012

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Hypnotherapy for Job Interviews

Hypnotherapy for Job Interviews

 

 

The word interview often sends shivers down our spines, as most people associate only negative emotions to job interviews. This association can spin out of control as you generally perform worst when your interview self esteem is low, which only helps to build on your negative interview association and I would add this negative experience will add more powerful negative feelings to your next interview, creating a negative loop of poor interview performance.

 

This fear can often turn into a phobia, just as a fear of a spider that scared a child can turn into a phobia as the child grows into an adult. But as with all phobias and fears this phobia can be destroyed, beaten and eliminated for ever.

 

There are several techniques that can be used to reduce your interview fear and destroy your phobia, the most powerful being Interview Hypnotherapy. These sessions are short, relaxing and empowering as with all hypnotherapy you are in control.

 

Employers only recruit confident, positive employees that have an abundance of self belief – basically you need to shine throughout the job interview to succeed

 

To learn more about hypnotherapy and to book your session, click this link:  Hypnotherapy in Manchester.

 

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How to be Confident in an Interview

How to be Confident in an Interview

 

Job interviews fall in to the top ten categories for situations that intimidate you, make you nervous and situations that knock the confidence out of you.  Why? Because we have to sell ourselves to the employer, for many this is a new and highly intimidating time. For your job interview to go well you have to make you the product stand out from the other interviewees, to do this you need to ooze confidence.

These 5 tips will help you boost your confidence before your next interview giving you the winning edge over other interviewees.

  • Buy new interview clothes, we all feel better and more confident when were wearing something new and smart. Once dressed stand in front of the mirror and look at and note everything that looks good about you

 

  • Before your real interview, attend a fake job interview for a job you don’t want, use this experience to improve your interview skills. Look back and write a list of everything that went well for you and record a second list of what you can do to improve your chance of a job offer

 

  • Make a list with three headings; Skills, Qualities and Experiences. Under each heading record as many skills, qualities and experiences you possess that are required by the new employer. These are your key selling points that you need to discuss throughout the job interview

 

  • Complete an interview visualisation; imagine attending the job interview and everything goes as planned, you know the answers to the questions, you build rapport with the interview, you feel relaxed, calm and incomplete control. Go one step further and imagine you have been offered the job, see yourself working in this new organization, the boss appreciates your work ethic, your new colleagues respond well to your professionalism – imagine this is the job you have always wanted. This technique is used by professional athletes before Olympic events.

 

  • Before you step through the interview door, take 10 deep breaths, as this will allow you to relax. Once calm imagine you are a confident person, stand how a confident you would stand, hold your head up high and push your chest out a little and walk in, as a confident you would walk – own the interview

 

These 5 easy to complete techniques can make a real difference with your interview success as interviewers only want to employee confident employees. If you’re still worried about being a bag of nerves at your next job interview, you can boost your confidence while reducing your negative self esteem in just one day by learning how to be as confident as a comedian.

 

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Can You Answer Interview Questions?

Can You Answer Interview Questions?

To win job offers, you can’t just rely on your experience and skills, the trick to winning offers of employment is by your ability to answer interview questions. Below you will find ten interview questions and an explanation of how to answer them. To ensure you pass your next job interview Employment King have gone to the employers and asked them what they require as a successful answer.

Tell me about yourself

For this question give a brief introduction about yourself, think of a good opening line, be really positive talk about previous positions and any significant achievements – ensure what you talk about is relevant to the job you are applying for.

What are your strengths?

This is one of the most common questions you will be asked. Give an answer relevant to the skills and qualities relevant to the position you are applying to. The interviewer is trying to find if your strengths match the job. For example, if you are applying for a job where accuracy is an important issue, one of your strengths could be that you have an eye for detail.  It may useful to find different words to describe similar attributes and qualities in order to avoid repetition.

If your interview skills are lacking, you will want to book a session with an Interview Coach

What are your weaknesses?

Again, another commonly asked question.  A frequent mistake to make when answering this question is to say something negative like “I can sometimes let things get on top of me”. Be positive and sell yourself with every interview question, turn a negative into a positive. For example, “In the past I felt I needed to improve my typing skills, because I wanted to be the best I can so I have recently enrolled on a typing course”. This will show that you can identify your weaknesses but at the same time, you are willing to improve. Most importantly: do not mention a weakness that is any way related to the job you are being interviewed for! This might sound obvious but it is a common mistake!

What do you enjoy doing outside of work?

This is sometimes asked as an opening question to get you talking and to calm your nerves, a lot of people answer “Socialising with friends” “Playing on my computer” “Taking my family on day trips”. Whilst these are valid and honest answers they do not really bring anything to the table that is special, that makes you stand out.

If you can say that you volunteer you will be guaranteed to impress! Although this should be truthful! You can apply to volunteer in any area you like, ideally in a position relevant to the job you are applying for. Volunteering is seen as a positive activity by all employers, you only need to volunteer once or twice a month and when you can answer this question  with “Currently I’m volunteering for Oxfam, I really get al lot out of helping others…” you can see that there are few who wouldn’t be impressed with that answer.

Why did you leave you last job?

A dreaded question for many! When answering this question never give a negative answer.  “I did not get on with my manager” or “The management did not run the business well” will show you in a negative light and reduce your chance of a job offer. Answer the question positively, emphasising that you have been looking for a career progression. Start by telling the interviewer what you gained from your last job “I enjoyed my last job, I quickly learned how to multi-task…”

If you were made redundant, let the interviewer know, this is not a negative.

Where do you see yourself in 4-5 years time?

Tell the interviewer how you want to progress through their company, a manager does not want to be re-advertising and interviewing in a year’s time, do not infer that you may want to leave after a certain amount of time. “I am really keen to learn how your company operates; I can see myself attending any available training and using this knowledge and my own drive and ambition to work my way up the company.” It may be useful to see if there are any formal progression tracks or training programmes.

Why do you want to work here?

An interviewer knows you are applying for other jobs, you may be offered a job with this employer, start employment and then leave for another job offer. An interviewer would never say this affects who they pick (and a large amount of companies using a scoring system to stop this from happening). But would you offer someone a job if you thought that they weren’t fully committed to your company? Show the interviewer how enthusiastic you are about the job, industry and their company. “Your company has such a good reputation and I know you have the ‘Investors in People’ award and this impresses me. I have been following your company for the last couple of years and I have seen how you have grown and I feel I would like to be a part of this.”

Have you got any questions for me?

Most interviewers ask this question and generally towards the end of the interview. Remember to prepare for this, as asking questions will be a great end to an excellent interview. Ask about company expansion, the team you will work with and anything to do with new contracts and personal development/training.

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NLP – Sleight of Mouth Patterns

NLP – Sleight of Mouth Patterns (SOMP)

People constantly live with limited self-beliefs, stopping them from moving forward with their lives, in the worst-case scenarios these limiting beliefs can turn into depression. SOMP help you reframe a person’s belief, the 14 SOMP patterns can be used in conversation to help give the client a new perspective without the client feel like they are in a coaching or canceling session. A SOMP doesn’t always resolve the problem but helps soften up the problem to make change easier. Some SOMP patterns can seem harsh or callous, which means you need to pick the right patterns for each client – you don’t need to use all 14 patterns on each client.

Limit the Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs define the relationship between a client’s value and their causes, indicators and consequences. Beliefs are typically expressed in the form of

Complex equivalence (A “equals”, “is, “is equivalent to” or “means” B)

Cause-effect (A “causes (because)”, “makes”, “leads to”, “produces”, “results in” B).

As an example, clients limiting belief maybe “I can’t lose weight because I don’t have willpower” (cause and effect)

Sleight of Mouth Pattern Examples

Redefine; change the representation of the belief  

  • What other meaning could the equation have?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: so what you are trying to say is that you don’t have the will power to lose weight but you can change your diet and eat healthier food

Consequence; consequences that can change beliefs

  • What will happen to them if they continue to think this way?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: the longer you leave it the less willpower you will have

Intention; what is the positive intention?

  • Why are they saying this?
  • What is the secondary gain?
  • What are they trying to get?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: it can be scary stopping a habit you have had for a while and we both agree it’s worth it to look great on your wedding day

Chunk Down; specific elements

  • What specifically?
  • What are examples of this?
  • What are parts of this?

Example SOMP Question or Statement:  what will give you the will power?

Chunk Up; generalisations

  • For what purpose?
  • What’s important about this?
  • Exaggerate.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: overweight people are always unhappy   

Counter Example; exceptions that challenge generalization

  • Invert the belief.
  • Make into a universal statement or question
  • A causes B, not B causes not A.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: we have all met people who say they can’t lose weight and then do

Another Outcome; propose a different outcome

  • What is another outcome you could shift to?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: the issue isn’t that willpower can win, it’s about you giving dieting a chance

Metaphor/Analogy; Use an analogy or metaphor that challenges the generalization defined by the belief

  • What story will relate to their belief?
  • Tell a metaphor or story about the solution.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: I adopted an overweight dog once that I believed would never lose weight, we started taking the dog on small walks and change his diet to a healthy diet, it was only a small thing really but before we do it the dog had lost loads of weight. The funny thing was we were told my the dog adoption shelter that the dog due to it’s bad health would only live for 12 months, but now 3 years later he is healthy and full of life.

Apply to Self; use key aspects of the belief to change the belief

  • Don’t think about it; just use the word back on itself.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: you can’t lose weight until you believe you have the willpower to lose weight

Hierarchy of Criteria (Values) Re-assess the belief based on a more important criterion.

  • What is a higher criteria (values)?
  • Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: isn’t it more important to think about your health than your weight

Change Frame Size; Re-evaluate the implication of the belief in the context of a longer (or shorter) time frame, a larger or shorter number of people (or from an individual point of view) or a bigger or smaller perspective.

  • Something (larger or smaller) they haven’t noticed.
  • Different frame, same behavior.
  • Chunk up to Universal Quantifier.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: losing weight will give you a longer life….to spend with your grandchildren

Meta Frame; change the basis of the belief

  • How is it possible they could believe that?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: you can’t lose weight but can’t you eat less food each day?

Model of the World; look at the belief from a different perspective

  • Switch Referential Index.
  • Is this true in everyone’s Model of the World?

Example SOMP Question or Statement: beating will power is telling yourself you do it

Reality Strategy; Re-assess the belief based on the fact that beliefs are based on specific perceptions

  • How do they represent that belief?
  • How do they/you know if it’s not true?
  • Apply current criterion (value) to current sentence.

Example SOMP Question or Statement: how do you know willpower not laziness is stopping you from losing weight?

Ask we discussed one SOMP question or statement will not always change the persons belief, but what it will do is weaken the belief, allowing your client to have a change of focus, with this change we can work with the client to move them forward.

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5 Quick Tips to Boost Your Confidence Each Morning

5 Quick Tips to Boost Your Confidence Each Morning

 

Everyday people are waking up feeling down and depressed because they don’t have the Confidence to; speak up in meetings, to ask the person they fancy out on a date, to apply for that job they have always wanted and some people don’t have the confidence to try something new.

The question you need to ask yourself is “what would be different in my life if I felt more confident?”

 

By completing these 5 early morning confidence boosting exercise you can learn to feel more confident.

 

1. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself all the nice things you see, everyone has something good to say about their appearance – you may have a nice smile or beautiful eyes, today your make-up may make you look younger then you really are, you have brought a new necklaces that really suits you. It doesn’t matter what it is you like about yourself, what matters is that you realise there is something about you that you like.

 

2. Wear something nice, often people who don’t believe in themselves lose hope and don’t even make the effort in the way they look. Get rid of all your old, ugly and ill fitting clothes, go out and buy something new, put it on and admire how wonderful you look. When you look good you feel good.

 

3. Use positive self talk, each day write something down that is positive about your self or something positive you will do that day “I am a confident and beautiful person” or “I have the confidence to speak up in team meetings” repeat what you have wrote ten times out loud.

 

4. Visualise the day, positively. People with low self esteem often think about the coming day, visualising how negative it will be, how many mistakes they will make or what can go wrong and negative images make you feel negative. Move these pictures away and make a positive movie in your mind; imagine your day go as well as it possibly can, see yourself as a confident person and imagine only positive outcomes, as positive picture make you feel positive.

 

5. Ask yourself what you learnt yesterday and how can this help you today. People with low confidence will focus on their mistakes, but making a mistake is good as this is the best way to learn, the best way to move forward. Make a list of anything that went wrong the day before – you didn’t speak up when you should have done; you forgot to complete a certain task or didn’t give yourself enough time to make yourself look your best. Next think about what you could do different if the same situation was to come up again today, what could you do positively, how you can be more confident. You can then use this new learning to feel more confident about handling any situation.

 

By completing these 5 techniques on a daily basis you will start to feel more positive about yourself, which will lead you to acting more confidently in any situation – remember the key to learning is repetition.

 

If you need to boost your confidence levels quickly attend the new “The Funny Thing About Confidence” course – starting soon!

 

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